I figured that a topic as heavy as this should be broken into a few parts. More so for me than just for you guys. It's a challenging topic to do justice.
When I finally got away from my douchebag ex I was lucky enough to have a supportive family and no permanent ties to him, like children.
Other women faced with this aren't so fortunate.
The belongings we owned together, or that were mine and too big to fit on the trailer were left behind. Anything to avoid further contact or conflict. He had a heathy bank account (as my money was used for day to day expenses as I was paid in cash, taxed cash but cash all the same.) I was left broke and with continuing bills.
Many other women have to face their abuser regularly to hand over their most precious "asset", their children.
This is usually a time of high stress (Understandably) and many times the control and intimidation continues to be directed at them during these hand overs. Many women I know in this situation are terrified they will not get their children back.
Domestic abuse mostly follows a cyclic flow chart.
Sadly the most dangerous time for any woman is when she actually decides to leave. The loss of control sends the abuser into a tailspin and they lash out.
If you or anyone you know is in an abusive relationship and wanting to get out, please, please, please make a plan. Talk to your local police, women's shelters, family anyone but get armed with as much information as you possibly can.
Part 3 of the reality of domestic abuse series will be up shortly.
Much love
Cie
xox
Don't be afraid to tell your family; they are the ones that truly love you. They will do all in their power and more, to help you leave anyone hurting you physically or mentally. Talk to them, tell them the whole truth. Don't be ashamed; they are not judging you; they will be relieved that you have come to them. Parents have an uncanny way of knowing that all is not right with their adult children lives, but it would be wrong for them to assume a situation. The abused must speak up, must take that first step - trust someone .... your family. From a mothers point of view.
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